One of the hardest things to do is to move on. It takes the courage of letting go of the past - all the happy and pleasure memories, and a fear of losing - will someday in the future you gain the same or more happiness that you left behind, or in the contrary, you do live in sorrow all the time.
We might be in a relationship that no longer works, or a job which no longer fulfills our needs, and yet still we cling on, hoping someday someone gonna pull that rope of turmoil, because clinging on is easier than letting go. Because we fear when we let go we will fall to the world of abyss, unknown place, and a fate worse than anything we could imagine. Thus we prefer to lead a life of disappointments rather than risk one of uncertainty.
And yet, to live a full life we must learn to move on and to let go of the past. We can not go through our lives backwards, always looking at what is behind us. Instead, we need to look ahead at our future and all the possibilities presented to us, however fearful.
While it is tempting to dwell on our disappointments, our dashed hope and wishful thinking, and while it is confirming to nurse our loathing and emotional hurts, these are also very things that shackle us to the past and prevent us from attaining our freedom to clasp the future.
My elder sister is a pragmatist, she taught me how to deal with disappointments. She know how I love learning languages. All the time, I had stressed myself out working hard for my level-up examination that my nervousness prevented me from doing well during the exams, jeopardising my grades. There is nothing quite like failure and being disappointed. For a young person, not getting what one wants can be a demolishing experience on a par with the end of the world. But my sister taught me the art of changing one's mind.
If, she said, after you have done all your best, try day and night but you still haven't been able to get what you want to reach, then by all means, just change your mind about it. Who says you have to have it just because you want it to be yours? There are many things you can do as long as you open up to other possibilities. Learn from the failure and upgrade yourself better, never dwell on the disappointments.
Nothing was worth getting depressed and disappointed about, that it took away one's capability to enjoy life to the fullest. In life, things rarely run the way we want it to be or rarely stay the same. This is the art of living, it makes life is interesting and worth living in.
Indeed, it is good to have dreams and to chase it, but it's even better to know that you are not chained to those dreams or to be slave to your disappointment when things don't go the way you want them.
Who knows, when we finally let go, far from falling into the abyss, we might find ourselves flying and soaring to new heights.
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